mu·tu·al -
1. Having the same relationship each to the other: mutual predators.
2. Directed and received by each toward the other; reciprocal: mutual respect.
3. Possessed in common: mutual interests.
4. Of, relating to, or in the form of mutual insurance.

life is sometimes filled with mutuality. be it when you are in love and the feelings are reciprocated. or when you are friends with the opposite sex and that's how the friendship stay, as friends.

Love

when the love between a couple starts to break down. there will be many many many( and i mean many) reasons to it. but through all these reasons (or excuses), there are only a genuine few which cannot be dealth with.

the saying goes, it takes 2 hands to clap. And so when the 2 hands starts clapping, everything will be blissful, wonderful and amazing. the passion burning deep inside each other. the love growing ever deeper. the feelings in overdrive. most people will call this the honeymoon period. it's when everything is like honey and you are over the moon.

but what happens when the feelings stop growing? does the honeymoon period end? or does the love end? or is this a start of the downfill battle of maintaining a relationship?

So many questions. People with so many different answers.

Well at least to me.. the honeymoon is when you learn more about each other, the time that you share will be exceptionally sweet, everything will be perfect. who knows, maybe share the 1st kiss of the relationship?

when the honeymoon ends, it's not the end of the world. but it's when reality sets in about the relationship. reality of the relationship= where is it heading, what level are you taking it to, minor misundertandings over trivial issues, and at this age = meeting the parents.

in time. if the reality of the relationship is not tackled properly, the passion starts to die down. the feelings start to fade. that;s when the mutuality will approach 0.

maybe one half is still trying his/her best to keep it moving. but due to the mutality issue... things start to fail. misunderstandings become arguements. the couple goes to bed(as in to sleep) sad. things are not getting better. only worse.

so what happens now?

Patience will see the better part of the whole situation. thus when you are patient, sit down and talk thru the issues. maintain a good and productive conversation/discussion.

If the mutuality part doenst improve, walking away from the relationship and keeping the memories as happy ones will be more important than wanting to fill the void should the relationship end. The 'habit' of keeping someone by your side will have to break.

When the communication stops, so does everything else.

the eyes can see what the heart cant. the heart can fell what the eyes cant.

Thus the bottom line to a relationship has several parts. some of which are : trust, mutuality of feelings, understanding and most of all patience.

Love is a learning journey. We learn the most from loving. We learn the most from being loved.

to all the lovebirds, good luck on your journey.

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This sudden entry of love isnt because I'm in love or am out of it. it's some feelings which i felt over the past 2 days when i had the opportunity to help a couple that had just fallen out of love. and i now know the true meaning of mutual friend. (thanks aishii)


to D and J, life will bring many opportunities. most importantly is how you apprehend them and make the best of it. hope things will get better in your own lives. =)

wanted to embed the video. but couldnt. so yes... enjoy.

good day mates